My baby boy Mateo is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I know a lot of people say it but I never understood what they meant by that till I was blessed with my very own bundle of joy.
I will be very honest with you, I was scared. I didn’t know the first thing about being a mum and I remember thinking what if I don’t do a good job? What if I don’t do it right? What if he hates me? Bit dramatic I know but it was how I felt. We came home from the hospital on the day he was born to my mums and I literally couldn’t get enough of my boy. He looked so pure and fresh. He was so innocent.
It was funny because my mum was so adamant that we would be going to my graduation the next day even though I was really walking like a penguin. She helped me take my braids out while I slept and set her alarm for 6 am so we can start getting ready.
Throughout the night, my son was waking up for his feed and I remember feeling so tired but thankfully my mum was doing the night shift duty with me. I’d feed him and she’d burp him. Great team work!
When the alarm went off in the morning, my mum looked at me and said “is there any way to defer this graduation because I’m tired?” I looked at her and laughed and said, “I’m way ahead of you”. I slumped right back to sleep as my bubba laid in his Moses basket so peaceful.
Being half Nigerian means we have the perks of having a party to celebrate the birth of a new baby. 7 days after a baby is born, we have what is called a naming ceremony. Mum had begun planning it and inviting people to this soirée and if I’m being honest, I was excited. It was all in honour of my boy and I couldn’t be more happier. It was a time for all the nay sayers and the negative ones to see that everything they thought or wished to happen didn’t. In fact it was the complete opposite. I graduated from uni, and I have my baby hale and hearty and nothing could and would ever stop me.
I remember seeing how excited my mother was to have this bundle of joy in her life and it made me think back to when she practically wanted nothing to do with me or him. Life definitely has a way of turning things around. One minute, everything looks so bleak and the next? It’s like nothing changed. Weird right? Yes. However on this occasion, my life was about to change in ways I could have never imagined.